Couples Therapy

Couples therapy can lead to deeper emotional connection, stronger communication, and a greater sense of teamwork. It gives you the tools to understand each other more fully and respond with more empathy and care. Many couples find that therapy helps them heal past hurts, resolve ongoing tensions, and reconnect with what brought them together in the first place. It’s not about perfection—it’s about building a relationship that feels safe, honest, and resilient.

The best type of therapy for couples depends on your unique relationship, goals, and the way you connect. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) are two approaches that many couples find helpful. They focus on deepening emotional bonds, building trust, and understanding one another on a more intimate level. EFT & PACT go beyond just skill building (i.e. communication skills) to help couples develop greater attunement towards one another, emotional connection, curiosity, and ability to be with one another in challenging emotions and conversations. Other approaches, like the Gottman Method, support couples in learning healthier ways to communicate and handle conflict. But more important than the method is finding a therapist who helps you both feel safe, seen, and supported—someone who respects your relationship and is committed to helping you grow together.

Couples therapy creates a safe space where both partners can speak openly and feel truly heard. Sessions often include exploring how you communicate, how conflict shows up between you, and what emotional needs may be getting missed. We’ll look at deeper patterns that may be shaping your relationship, and practice ways to respond to each other with more understanding and care. Some sessions may focus on healing past pain, while others might highlight your strengths. It’s a collaborative process that adapts to your relationship’s needs.

In our first session, we’ll begin by getting to know each other. I’ll ask about your relationship—what brought you together, what’s felt challenging, and what you're hoping to get out of therapy. Each of you will have space to share your thoughts and feelings. You don’t need to have all the answers—just a willingness to be present. My role is to create a space where both of you feel safe, supported, and genuinely heard, right from the beginning. After this initial session, typically I’ll meet with each member of the relationship individually to gather attachment and family history, and then at our next couples session we’ll explore goals for our therapeutic work together.

You don’t have to wait for a crisis to seek help. Couples therapy can be helpful when you feel distant, stuck in repeating arguments, or unsure how to move forward. It’s also useful during transitions—like moving in together, becoming parents, or healing after a betrayal. Sometimes, couples come in simply to deepen their connection. If you’ve found yourselves asking, “Is this normal?” or “Why can’t we get past this?” it might be a good time to reach out. Therapy can be both preventative and healing.

Look for a therapist who helps you both feel understood and respected. A good couples therapist doesn’t take sides—they support each of you while helping you work as a team. It’s helpful to read their website, learn about their approach, and maybe schedule a consultation to see if it feels like a good match. You deserve a couples therapist who honors your story and walks alongside you with compassion and care.

Yes—and they should. LGBTQ couples deserve a therapist who not only supports them but deeply understands the unique experiences, identities, and challenges they may face. Affirming therapy creates a safe, nonjudgmental space where your relationship is respected and celebrated in all its fullness. A queer-affirming therapist will be mindful of power dynamics, gender identity, sexuality, and the ways culture and systems can shape your experiences as a couple. You deserve care that honors who you are—together and individually—and helps you build a relationship that reflects your values, truth, and love.

Couples come to therapy for many different reasons. Some are struggling with communication, conflict, or feeling emotionally distant. Others are dealing with trust issues, intimacy concerns, or the effects of stress and life changes. Sometimes therapy is a place to process grief, betrayal, or identity shifts. And some couples come simply to strengthen their relationship or prepare for the future. No matter the reason, therapy offers a place to slow down, reflect, and grow—together.

For many couples, yes—it’s worth it. Therapy is an investment in your relationship, your emotional well-being, and your future together. While it may feel like a big commitment, it often provides lasting benefits: clearer communication, stronger connection, and the ability to move through conflict with more care and understanding. Many people find that the growth and clarity they gain in therapy, both individually and in their relationship, is worth far more than the cost. It’s not a quick fix, but it’s a meaningful step toward long-term growth and healing.

Yes, many couples not only survive therapy—they grow stronger because of it. Therapy can be challenging, especially when it brings up old wounds or difficult conversations. But it also creates space for healing, clarity, and reconnection. Couples who come in with openness and a willingness to grow often leave with a deeper understanding of themselves and each other. Therapy doesn’t guarantee a specific outcome, but it does give you the tools to make conscious choices and build healthier patterns—together.

That’s wonderful to hear. The first step is to reach out— through our contact form to schedule a free consultation. Take a look at our team of skilled therapists to see which one(s) you are interested in working with. We’ll find a time to talk about your relationship, your hopes for therapy, and what support might look like. Starting therapy is a powerful choice—it means you’re choosing to care for your connection and invest in growth. We are honored to walk alongside you as you take this next step.